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This simple tool will help you understand how most attacks happen and what you can do about it.
Download the graphic, print it as a poster or fold and laminate it to make a bookmark. Some of
the most base, crucial and under-represented concepts of self defense are contained in this little graphic.
The Five Stages of Violent Crime was created by Marc MacYoung.
The Five Ds of Self Defense was created by Eric Kondo.
Self Defense Continuum and graphic design by Teja Van Wicklen.
Breathing is active meditation. Belisa teaches classes to help new moms heal from the emotional
and physical stress of pregnancy and birth. There are classes for athletes, and more. All classes
were created by Dr. Belisa Vranich who is a clinical psychologist, author, and presenter with a
dynamic and innovative approach to modern issues.
Personal Note: I’ve known Belisa for years now and she’s the real thing.
Seriously, how many actual doctors are looking at alternative methods of releasing stress,
improving health and facing inner demons. There’s more money in feeding you pills.
Belisa once helped me get past a very difficult emotional time. She did more with breath in
one three hour session than had been accomplished in months of talk-therapy. She relieved my
whole body of enormous tension and cleared my mind. She certainly saved my sanity
and my family’s. I hope some day to be able to repay that debt.
NOT-ME! Is a non-profit organization with a mission to promote,
advance and unify self defense education and training for at-risk populations.
Our primary objective is to enable people to survive violent attacks and deter aggressive confrontations.
The majority of people in need are part of groups that have been historically targeted for violence.
These include but are not limited to people with physical disabilities, women,
the elderly, the gay and lesbian population, and racial minorities.
CPR & First Aid
The American Red Cross offers all kinds of CPR First Aid classes.
Find one in your area. Get CPR Certified! It could be a matter of life and death!
There are inexpensive one day classes and you can do it with your kids in many cases.
It could be a great adventure and many townships offer discounts and even
free classes to citizens of their communities willing to become certified.
There are even tax write-offs in many cases. Look into it!
Know Your Disaster
Use these RED CROSS DISASTER links to Access information on the every type of disaster
ranging from Chemical Emergency and Drought to Wildfire and Winter Storm!
Let Your Family Know You’re Safe. If your community has experienced a disaster,
register on the American Red Cross Safe and Well Web site available through
RedCross.org to let your family and friends know about your welfare.
If you don’t have Internet access,
call 1-866-GET-INFO to register yourself and your family.
The HeartRescue Project funded by the Medtronic Foundation, is dedicated
to improving how sudden cardiac arrest (SCA) is recognized, treated and measured in the United States.
Community response education is an important component of the program’s mission.
Have you ever seen anyone have a heart attack or stroke?
Would you know what to do? It’s not hard for the most part.
Considering how prevalent heart disease is, you’d think they’d teach CPR in schools.
The link takes you to a short simulation. It’s about the sequence of events.
If you can’t watch now, bookmark it and watch it with your family.
Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR) is a national Washington, DC based 501(c)3 nonprofit organization.
Since our inception in 1997, MCSR has led the call to redefine masculinity andmale strength
as part of preventing men’s violence against women.
Vital Voices (cofounded by Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton)
recognized us as “one of the most innovative prevention programs in the United States.”
We’ve reached over 2 million youth and professionals with our award-winning youth program
the Men of Strength Club, our Campus Men of Strength program for college men,
and our “My Strength is Not for Hurting” public awareness campaign.
Mission: Men Can Stop Rape’s mission is to mobilize men to use their strength
for creating cultures free from violence, especially men’s violence against women.
Cornered Cat – On Kathy Jackson’s Cornered Cat site You’ll find all sorts of info, including multiple blogs on guns and kids and how to reconcile the two, both mentally and in terms of safe storage. Mostly you’ll learn and laugh because Kathy is that good a writer! She is a firearms instructor, a homeschool mom, a small business owner, a former magazine editor and a freelance writer. Personal Note: I was long distance email and phone friends with Kathy long before actually taking her class. She is one of the smartest people I know. Seriously. She gives thought to the stuff that falls between the cracks or that people generally gloss over. As someone with one foot in liberal NYC and the other in paramilitary martial arts, I can tell you that Kathy knows how to listen and bridge distances. She is a person first and foremost. If you have any apprehension or curiosity about firearms education or training, especially as a woman, Kathy is your gal. Read her blog, take a one-day class. There is no better place to allay fears, brush up on skills and learn new ones in a comfortable, fair-minded, safety-first setting. And she is a top notch instructor. I learned more solid, usable skills and gained more understanding in one day with Kathy than in all my other courses combined. My only regret? She doesn’t live closer to me.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides 24-hour support through advocacy, safety planning, resources and hope to everyone affected by domestic violence. It was established in 1996 as a component of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) passed by Congress. The Hotline is a nonprofit organization that provides crisis intervention, information and referral to victims of domestic violence, perpetrators, friends and families. The Hotline answers a variety of calls and is a resource for domestic violence advocates government officials, law enforcement agencies and the general public.
Boys & Girls Clubs of America – In every community, boys and girls are left to find their own recreation and companionship in the streets. An increasing number of children are at home with no adult care or supervision. Young people need to know that someone cares about them. Club programs and services promote and enhance the development of boys and girls by instilling a sense of competence, usefulness, belonging and influence. Boys & Girls Clubs are a safe place to learn and grow.
Personal Note: When Zane was four years old we were strapped for cash and needed a summer camp option so we sent him to the Boys & Girls Club after meeting the very cool director of the one nearest us. I grew up going to similar camps like Shellie’s All Stars in NY. Zane liked it so much he went the next year as well. The culture of community and older kids helping younger overall is very cool. We found great people who really know and care about kid culture and work to instill healthy emotional habits and attitudes.
The CONSUMER PRODUCT SAFETY COMMISSION works to ensure the safety of consumer products
– such as toys, cribs, power tools, cigarette lighters, and household chemicals.
The CPSC’s research and outreach has contributed significantly to the 30 percent decline in the rate of deaths and injuries associated with consumer products over the past 30 years. Browse or look up products before buying car seats and household products. Check for recalls and refunds. Sign up for alerts.
ALSO SEE RESOURCES FOR EVERYONE ON THIS PAGE
..“You’re Good. We’ll Make You Better.” CONFLICT RESEARCH GROUP INTERNATIONAl is the result of an alliance between individuals with very different viewpoints and experiences, but a common commitment to expanding awareness, insight and options related to all aspects of interpersonal conflict and violence. Our goal is to make you better and to provide a diverse resource for people with an interest in learning more about all aspects of conflict management. The self-defense, martial arts, professional security, and anti-violence industry is rife with misinformation, self-serving agenda, tribal thinking, ideological wars, and down right lousy information. CRGI will counter some of that by providing a comprehensive resource of non nonsense, out-of-the-box concepts and clarifications without agenda. As a group of different people with varied backgrounds, experiences, and beliefs, we don’t always agree on everything. But, we do agree on the basic principles of self-improvement through training and exposure to new ideas and differing viewpoints.
The core contributors to Conflict Research Group, International are: Rory Miller, Marc MacYoung, Erik Kondo, Toby Cowern, Teja VanWicklen, Clint Overland, Garry Smith, Varg Freeborn, Randy King, Tammy Yard-McCracken and Terry Trehan. Each of these people have their own separate companies that are also worth looking into. CRGI brings them all together to debate and decipher conflict and violence.
Blog By Rory Miller
CHIRON TRAINING blog by Rory Miller, a writer and teacher living peacefully in the Pacific Northwest. Rory Miller has served for seventeen years in corrections as an officer and sergeant working maximum security, booking and mental health; leading a tactical team; and teaching subjects ranging from Defensive Tactics and Use of Force to First Aid and Crisis Communications with the Mentally Ill. For fourteen months he was an advisor to the Iraqi Corrections System working in Baghdad and Kurdish Sulaymaniyah. Somewhere in the midst of that he received a BS degree in Psychology; served in the National Guard as a Combat Medic (91A/B); earned college varsities in judo and fencing and received a mokuroku in jujutsu. He has drunk chichu with reformed cannibals and 18-year-old scotch with generals…and loves long sword fights on the beach. Rory is the author of Facing Violence and Meditations on Violence among others. Personal Note: Rory is one of the best people I know. He is also a real old-fashioned philosopher and thinker. His psychology background gives him a unique perspective on violence that is really refreshing, not to mention necessary. Violence doesn’t live in a vacuum and Rory dissects violence and psychology as both career and hobby, so you really get your money’s worth when you read his stuff. Rory is one of the few people willing to listen to alternative viewpoints. He is not afraid of being wrong, in fact, it excites him. Rory despises labels and loves conversation and exploration. He is my favorite Poet Warrior and he would deck me if he heard me say that!
NO NONSENSE SELF DEFENSE We aren’t just about self-defense. We also go into conflict resolution, negotiation in potentially violent situations and life skills. We do this because these are the elements that usually lead to violence. Elements that if you don’t consciously control them, will put you into serious danger. Personal Note: This site is a must read. Any question you have about self defense, rape, domestic violence, etc is probably answered here. It is a priceless resource. And it’s free???!!! What can you say about Marc except that he is force of nature. Marc is probably the most prolific and devoted violence and conflict analyst in the business. His site speaks for itself. Encyclopedic. Enlightening to the umpteenth power. Nuff said.
The Clery Center for Security On Campus is a nonprofit 501(c)(3) dedicated to preventing violence, substance abuse and other crimes
on college and university campuses across the United States, and to compassionately assist the victims of these crimes.
The DATE SAFE Project, Inc. To help clear-up the various
misconceptions about healthy dating, intimacy, consent, sex, respect,
sexual assault, and honoring survivors, author Mike Domitrz teamed up with educators,
professionals, counselors, parents, administrators, students, military professionals,
and experts from around the world to found The DATE SAFE Project.
The focus? To provide positive how-to skills and helpful insights for addressing
verbal consent, respecting of boundaries, sexual decision-making,
bystander intervention, and supporting survivors.
SEX SIGNALS has become one of the most popular sexual assault prevention programs on college campuses through its unorthodox, humor-facilitated approach to examining our culture, sex, and prevention strategies like bystander intervention. Sex Signals is updated every six months to stay culturally relevant and regularly incorporates new teaching strategies based on best practices research from numerous fields of study.
A two-person team of highly-trained educators takes the audience on an interactive, relevant, and often-hilarious exploration of the cultural messaging we receive about gender, sexuality, sexual health and intimate relationships. It examines what role culture and privilege play in justifying unhealthy and dangerous beliefs about what is acceptable social and sexual behavior. This is all accomplished through facilitated dialogue and several semi-improvisational scenes, the final of which features a college student defending his buddy from a recent accusation of rape. This scene then leads to a focused discussion on the role we all play in stopping sexual violence. It enables audiences to identify intervention strategies and positively change the way they think, communicate and act by encouraging bystander intervention in all aspects of their life.